i have been really trying to feed him at the same time every day, starting at 8:30 and then every four hours after that. by the last feeding though i usually have to start a little early. i have also started doing a bedtime routine. about a half an hour before it's time to feed him i take him in his room and begin by turning on the music. then i change his diaper, lotion him up, change his onesie and into pj's, wash his face and whisper everything i say to him. i think it helps him wind down a little bit. then i feed him in his room with the light off and burp him and put him straight into bed. he won't take a pacifier right after he has eaten, but after he has been in his crib for about 15 minutes he makes a few noises and i know he is ready for it. so most of the time i can just give it to him and he will go to sleep. sometimes though brad has to go in and rock him for a few minutes, but we aren't doing it every night. i also have been giving him a little blanket that i slept with for a few nights so he can grab it and smell it and he does! it is the cutest thing ever!
i've also tried changing positions for him, he really likes sleeping on his side for naps and i figure that i like to sleep on my side so why not him too? last night he woke up at about one and went right back to sleep. but then he woke up again at 4 and ate and wouldn't go back to sleep, i went in about three times and gave him his pacifier, i think he finally went back to sleep about 5:30. what a cute little stinker! thanks for everyone's advice, i think that he definately does better with routine. the other thing i wonder though is, how many naps should he take a day? usually he takes two but sometimes three... i wonder if it makes a difference????